Be comfortable alone. You have to dress well and not act cool or be a try hard just be loose. Don’t set out looking for a girlfriend, or you’ll just end up looking desperate. Self confidence and self sufficiency are extremely sexy qualities in a man, and you will not seem like you have either of these if you’re begging every girl you meet to go out with you.
Look to make good friends rather than a girlfriend. This means you should talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you’re immediately attracted to. Making good friends with women will help you practice holding conversations with them, as well as learning how women feel and think in general. More importantly, you’ll be helping yourself feel less lonely without desperately seeking a girlfriend.
Help someone. It could be her, or it could be someone else in the room. Is she carrying something heavy? Say “let me help you with that” and carry it for her. Is someone short on cash? Lend them a few dollars so they can eat lunch. Hold the door open for the next person coming through, even if they haven’t reached it yet. In other words, be a kind and generous person. Not only will it get her attention, but it will also make you feel good about yourself. Don’t be fake and do nice things only when she’s around, though. Help people all the time, in a wide variety of ways. She’ll notice, and so will the people she knows, and on the occasion that you come up in a conversation, people will say “He’s such a great person!” and this girl will start thinking “Yeah…he is, isn’t he?”
Approach tons of girls on a consistent basis. If you see a girl you find attractive you go and talk to her (doesn’t matter what time it is). And you do that on a regular basis. If you go out one day and sit it out for next few days, it won’t work well. Go out regularly and talk to bunch of women. Supermarkets, library, malls, streets, social gatherings any place where you think you might find girls.
Avoid being afraid to fail. Remember, fear of rejection is extremely irrational. If you see a hot girl, you go and talk to her. Convey her your intentions right away. Don’t digress, no matter what, like “Hi, you are cute and I came here to know who you really are.” You are looking for a girlfriend, not a friend who is a ‘girl’.
Avoid giving yourself time to make excuses. When you see a hot girl, don’t make excuses like ‘she probably has a boyfriend’, ‘she is on her phone’ or ‘she is jogging’, ‘Man I look so bad’. Believe it that there is no valid excuse to not talk to her. At worst she would say ‘no’ and walk away. You have to try again and again to get good at this.
Keep having fun. This is really important. If you are not having fun while talking to a girl or while looking for her, you are probably taking it too seriously. But if you are having fun, you won’t care about the potential rejection and would come out as cool and fun guy.
Be yourself to the extreme. If you don’t find something she says funny, don’t laugh just because she is laughing. Don’t try to be something you are not.
Network. The more people you meet, the bigger pool of people you’ll have to choose from. Don’t be picky about who you meet or how you meet him—the nice old man down the street may have a gorgeous granddaughter your age and the somewhat annoying girl from last night’s party might have a friend who’s perfect for you.
Go out and pursue hobbies you love. If you’re not sure how to start meeting people, sign up for activities that sound fun to you! Check forums, listings, classifieds, and listservs for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. You can also explore new interests or activities. You might find a new hobby and a girlfriend all in one go! Don’t depend completely on the internet.
Take care of your physical appearance. No matter how much women would like to admit otherwise, looks are an important part of the dating game. Bad body odor, smelly breath, and greasy, unkempt hair are simply not attractive to most women.Shower regularly, brush your teeth twice a day, and stay in shape. While you don’t need to be the best looking guy out there, you do need to make a good first impression.
Take pride in your clothing. Again, you don’t need to be stylish, but clean, unwrinkled clothes are always better than the opposite. Avoid wearing the same thing every day, especially if it’s just sweatpants.
In addition to making you more attractive, taking good care of your physical appearance will boost your self confidence, which in turn, will make you more attractive, boosting your self confidence, and so forth. While cockiness is never a good thing, knowing that you’ve got good qualities will make you much better at marketing yourself.
Practice genuinely complimenting girls. Challenge yourself to find something beautiful in any girl. It doesn’t have to be something physical; it can be a cute gesture, an admirable trait, a talent or skill. Recognizing and expressing true appreciation for any and every girl will make you more attracted to girls and girls more attracted to you.
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